Window of irritation

That is the cleverest meme I have ever read.

But I’m still not doing it. No. I have told you before, on many a drunken even­ing: ‘You can roll about on the floor, wav­ing your mag­netic leg in the air, all you want, but I am not hit­ting you with a stick — yes I know it’s only a stick of cel­ery but I’m still not doing it. And for God’s sake man, put your clothes back on!’

One would guess that the per­son wish­ing to be “jo or no hari”-ed about was in a fra­gile state of mind and would make this obvi­ous, thus wish­ing for uni­ver­sal praise, sup­port and mes­sages of love, or it could be the straw break­ing their Capri-Sun…after which they climb a build­ing and jump off, expect­ing to land in 1973.

Blog­ging may some­times seem like a bit of a search for praise and this is per­haps one way of get­ting that recognition…albeit from a bunch of ran­dom people on the inter­net, and not actu­ally a real pat on the back.

The words in the neg­at­ive ‘Nohari’ win­dow are more ima­gin­at­ive than I thought, at least — it would almost be a com­pli­ment to be described as ‘vul­gar, vacu­ous and panicky’.

I have lost all train of thought.

Thanks andre.

I’ll never look at a stick of cel­ery the same way again.

Andre — Er, I think I’ve fainted.

Kate — What an intel­li­gent com­ment, all the more so for being left at a quarter to one in the morn­ing. A fra­gile state of mind, yes — this describes most blog­gers, does it not?

Annie — please let ‘vul­gar, vacu­ous and pan­icky’ be the words you thought of as applic­able to An Unre­li­able Wit­ness. Please. I could use them for a review, then.

Gor­don — I bet you’re nib­bling one tomor­row, albeit with a guilty conscience.

I bet I’m not.

I mean I won’t have a guilty con­science but a deep longing…

Sorry.

I am not proud of my comment.

Sorry.

The Johari/Nohari meme was on live­journal about three years ago. I feel a sort of com­pul­sion to point this out, if only to divert my atten­tion from the thought of that mag­netic leg wav­ing in the air…

And: what Kate said. I’m going to go and read her blog now..

Amen and other such non­des­cript words of enthu­si­astic agreement!

I had a look at it myself but couldn’t find many words that applied to me — where was ‘slat­ternly’? ‘Can­tan­ker­ous’? ‘Fickle’?

I’m really confused.

I’m also really really glad that I am not a blogger.

It sounds very complicated.

ps. How many Annie’s are there com­ment­ing here?

Like Jack, I struggled to find words which related to my bad points. Like malevol­ent, mega­lo­manic and mur­der­ous. In fact they had no bad points begin­ning with M at all.

On a ser­i­ous note, this is a ridicu­lous use of the of work of Luft and Ing­ham, which frankly wasn’t very use­ful in the first place. The object­ive is to dis­cover the three ele­ments of your per­son­al­ity; the “arena” (the you every­one knows), your “facade” (stuff you know about but we don’t) and your “blind spot” (the stuff we know about you but you don’t know about yourself).

In the­ory there is also an “unknown” cater­gory; those things about your per­son­al­ity that neither you nor any­body else has any idea about, which has unknown poten­tial to effect everything. Seriously.

This is mostly used to help people in their jobs. For example, the nature of one’s facade and blind spot could be very import­ant if you are man­ager strug­gling with a work­force. You may work hard to dis­guise your sens­it­ive fluffy nature (your facade) but not real­ise you come across like a tyr­ant (your blind-spot).

How­ever, nat­ur­ally these things are of dubi­ous use. They require people to attempt to be object­ive about some­thing which is inher­rently sub­ject­ive and to be hon­est under con­di­tions of imper­fect con­fid­en­ti­al­ity. Though an on-line blog-related ver­sion opens it right up to any passing troll or syco­phant, and defeats the object in an entirely dif­fer­ent way.

So that was the answer to your first ques­tion. To the oth­ers I am way too polite to say.

I’ve found it quite use­ful so far in con­firm­ing that my blog has lost it’s ori­ginal pur­pose and I’ve rever­ted to mask­ing the aspects of me that I don’t think people will like.

So there.

I picked it up from BoJo and since then it has run through the New York cohort like a bad curry.
I have par­taken myself, more out of curi­os­ity than any­thing.
Also, because only two people have done my ‘Nohari’ woss­name that I now get to choose between con­sid­er­ing myself not to have any bad qual­it­ies at all, or just that I am really really scary.

Gosh.

Read­ing my pre­vi­ous com­ment back, I think I need gram­mat­ical recon­di­tion­ing, pos­sibly in a camp in Siberia.

I apo­lo­gise for taint­ing these hal­lowed pages with such non­sensical constructions.

“a fra­gile state of mind” may apply to some people who write online, but many people writ­ing web logs choose not to write about them­selves, and per­haps just wish to write about sub­jects they like (foot­ball, cooked break­fasts, dan­cing, music, polit­ics and the like). These posts, while being great and inform­at­ive, some­times don’t require a large amount of soul-searching to look for the best-fitting way to describe somet­ing. (they’re pos­sibly not the people to obtain jo-or-no-hari wot­sits about their work!)

I’d sug­gest that most people writ­ing web­logs which offer an open­ing into their soul have felt that del­ic­ate state at some point, and this finds them both the muse to write with and use, and some­times per­haps their own worst enemy, in the “post” and “delete” buttons.

I like 1am. 2am is also nice, as is 3am. It’s nice and quiet and productive!

I’m fairly sure it’s pro­nounced meh meh

Dear read­ers of An Unre­li­able Wit­ness — I am astoun­ded at these intel­li­gent, thought­ful and carefully-considered responses, and can reply noth­ing except “gulp”, both because I am very impressed and feel­ing rather brain dead. Sorry.

Johari? Nohari? Wtf?

(some­body had no do the non-carefully-considered response at some point)

Baaaaaa

Wothari? Pffft. Only some ready-made gim­mick for those who can’t be bothered to provide ori­ginal con­tent and need an ego mas­sage to boot. Bad combo. Plus I am a in vile mood — the inap­pro­pri­ate use of cel­ery sticks always enrages me. Don’t wave it about people, juice it. It’s good for you. Honest.

isn’t cel­ery one of those food­stuffs, like lettuce and cucum­ber, that takes more effort to eat it than energy (or per­haps even hap­pi­ness) that it gives out?

espe­cially the stringy bits. get stuck in the teeth.

I hate the inter­net and all who sail in her.

I’ve done a few memes over the years but I tend to avoid them these days. Some­times people tag me though, and I’m quite polite so I usu­ally oblige.

Some are quite inter­est­ing, if they prompt you to think about some aspect of your­self that you hadn’t con­sidered before. I’m not defend­ing this par­tic­u­lar one because it reminds me of some of those dread­ful things they make you do at work, but I don’t think they’re all bad.

That’s me. On the bloody fence again. *sigh*

kate’s com­ments are very intel­li­gent. I’m going to go and look at her blog too.

I like caite’s com­ment too.